All the worrisome things that a guy shows you early on are the same things he’ll show you years later. Those nasty red flags wave on forever.
So if you noticed that he’s hesitant to commit, drinks a bit much, or tends to be lazy, don’t assume that your amazing loving will fix all that.
These perturbing habits are not just quirky ticks, they’re character flaws that are flaming red and desperately trying to wave in your attention. With this in mind, it’s important to distinguish between annoying red flags and deal-breaker red flags. Make it a point to honestly assess what you see and then call your shot. If you decide to move on, be rest assured that he’ll be packing his red pennant and bringing it to his next relationship, too. Guaranteed. If you think the problem is a workable one, then be aware that although you may manage to keep the red flag at half mast, it’s still there and it’s inflammable.
